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Someone reminded me of this sign today posted on the way of Shishu Bhavan, a children’s home in Calcutta. I quoted it in the front of Authentic Relationships, a book I wrote with my brother, Clay a few years back.

I really needed to hear these words again today. Maybe the will re-inspire some of you as well. Our actions are not about the outcomes we desire. Someone can completely destroy or repudiate a gift of kindness or an attempt to serve. This poem is about living with love and grace in a world filled with self-interest, that can easily treat our love with contempt. Love anyway!

Anyway

People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Be good anyway.

Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People need help but may attack you if you try to help them.
Help them anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Just found out that Charisma’s website ran a column I wrote a few weeks ago. It is called the Fatherless Epidemic. Read more here.

Back from an awesome Oklahoma Trip where I spent two days at a Because of Jesus Conference, and then two more days with the Transformed by Christ bunch in Edmond. In both places I talked about Living Loved and how that frees us from fear, guilt and shame. Up the road, I’m going to post one of the audios that really seems to resonate with people who are trying to sort out the difference between what Jesus does to make this journey work, and what my part is. But that’s another day.

Just thought I’d let you all know that Crosswalk.com just posted a column I wrote for Father’s Day drawn from the Parable of the Incredible Father, which many people call the Prodigal Son. Father’s day isn’t always a blessing for those who have had horrible experiences with abusive or absent fathers, or even are living in troubled relationships with their own kids. So Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers and families out there who are celebrating the joy of that relationship, and my thoughts and prayers are with those for whom this weekend only refreshes some pain. May you know that in spite of the failings of your earthly dad, you have a Heavenly Dad who loves you more than anyone on this planet ever has or ever will! He will be the Father to you no one else could ever be!

And for those who want to improve their parenting skills, this morning I also posted the first of a two-part podcast with Danny and Sheri Silk at The God Journey, about loving our kids on purpose. I blogged about Danny’s book, Loving Our Kids on Purpose, a few months ago and I think this podcast will really encourage people who are wanting to discover how grace and relationship impacts discipline. What we share there not only applies to parent/child relationships, but all relationships, including yours with the Heavenly Dad!

Sara and I just finished one of our best vacations ever, enjoying the island of Hawaii with our daughter, son-in-law and two grandchildren. We spent a lot of time just to rest, refresh and recreate together. We enjoyed hanging out with the family and playing with the grandgirls while we snorkeled, played on the beach, read and ate. It was fabulous. And while we were there I got to experience two of the most awe-inspiring moments of my life in God’s creation.

One evening my daughter, son-in-law and I went snorkeling in Keahou Bay with 12-14 foot-long manta rays. We held onto a bar that projected lights into the ocean, which drew plankton. The plankton were like a buffet line for the manta rays as they came to feed. We were out there for over an hour as these gentle giants would glide through the ocean, curving, swerving and flipping over right next to us. They would approach with their huge mouths extended to sweep in the plankton and then curve right along your chest, at times even bumping into us. It was breath-taking to be so close to something so large and so wild.

On another night Sara and I took a light plane flight over to the volcanic region of the island. It turned out to be what the pilot called his best flight ever. We looked down the throat of the caldera, to three hundred feet below the surface, to molten magma bubbling and spewing up from the earth’s core. Then a few miles later we found a break out in the lava tube that spilled lava down the hillside in rivers of fire. We circled it for a long time and watched the newest land on earth being created.

But now we’re back home, at least for a few days. We apologize for any inconvenience caused by our office being closed the last couple of weeks, but we are catching up. And, since Brad is in Nashville Sara joined me for the next podcast, which will air this Friday. Also, Forbes finally did the article about THE SHACK, though its focus was more than disappointing.

On Thursday, I’m off to Tulsa and Edmund, OK to see what God has in mind with believers there. I’m teaching at a Because of Jesus Fearless conference Friday and Saturday in Oklahoma, a fellowship in Tulsa Sunday morning and a Livin’ Loved conference in Edmund on Monday and Tuesday nights. (You can use this link, but you need to type in ‘waynejacobsen’ for the password.) After that it is on to Oregon, Colorado and Michigan in July and possibly Toronto and Maine in August.

And somewhere through all of that I hope to get some more writing done.

If there’s not enough of me to listen to already, I spoke last week in Madison, Wisconsin about growing in the love of the Father, to a group of folks who have been reading He Loves Me. It was recorded, so if you want to hear any of that you can download it here. I think you’ll recognize my name even though they spelled it wrong.

Two weeks before I was near Anderson, Indiana and did an interview with a pastor whose congregation has also been reading He Loves Me and So You Don’t Want to Go to Church Anymore. You can hear the. interview at Ovid Community Church here.

Also, I was interviewed by Forbes magazine a couple of weeks ago (as was Paul and Brad) about the publishing phenomenon behind The Shack. It was an interesting interview and the reporter seemed to keep coming back to the fact that we haven’t done all the things normal publishers do to maximize their profit. It’s supposed to be in their June 8 issue, which is the one-year anniversary of The Shack appearing as number one on the NY Times Bestseller List. I’m not sure if that’s going to be an how-did-these-idiots-not-exploit-this-work-for-all-they-could, or here’s-what-it’s-like-when-people-are-passionate-about-a-mission-instead-of-serving-mammon. It should be interesting. (Note added later: Just checked the June 8 issue at the airport and it’s not in there. Maybe it will be in the June 15 issue?)

All is going quiet here for a season. Sara and I are getting away for a much-anticipated, two-week vacation with my daughter and her family. We have been looking forward to this time of rest and refreshing. Unfortunately, since we are the only two people who keep things going around here, that will also mean we need to close our office for the next two weeks. We will have someone process orders every few days during that time, so your order can be fulfilled, but may be delayed. Also, we will not be keeping up with phone calls and emails during that time. If you can possibly wait to get hold of us until after June 8, we would appreciate you waiting until then. I don’t plan on updating the blog during this time unless something major arises. I am sorry for any inconvenience this causes for the many people who frequent this site, but we are long due for some time off. Thank you for your patience and consideration for our family during this brief break.

I am finishing up a trip into Wisconsin over the weekend, and will return home tomorrow. Jesus has hungry people everywhere who are no longer satisfied with the religious conventions that seek to substitute for our own relationship with him. They are crying out for more reality in their relationship with him and more authenticity in their relationship with others, both believers and those who have yet to come to know him. It’s pretty awesome. I love what God is stirring in his people all over the world.

I also wanted to announce that we have just completed a major overhaul of our Lifestream website to make it more functional for the numbers of people visiting us these days. It was just released over the weekend and I think we have most of the bugs all worked out. If you find anything that doesn’t quite work right, please let us know.

Mostly everything is in the same place, but the navigation and look are much cleaner and simpler. So, if you haven’t visited in a while, come to our ‘open house’ and have a look around. There’s lots of free stuff to read and listen to, and our hope is that it will encourage you on the incredible journey of living solidly in the love of the Father, and discovering the joy of loving others the same way we are loved.

Most depictions of God in art throughout church history have imagined a distant and exalted older man, often with a look of anger in his eye. Interestingly enough, most depictions of Jesus (except when he is clearing the temple), show him in softer and more compassionate moments. If Jesus was the exact representation of the Father’s nature, why do so many people see their demeanor so differently.

Most images I had of God growing up were scary. They were never engaging or inviting. Jesus, was the good guy. He’d fixed things with Father, or so I was told, but that didn’t make him any less scary. If I was going to be around God, I wanted to be hiding behind Jesus’ robes.

Paul, however, had no such image of God. He understood that the cross fundamentally changed how we get to view God—no longer as terrifying judge, but now for who he really is, Abba Father. “For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15) As I’ve said many times, Abba is the safe connection a little child has with his or her dad.

After our Mother’s Day family get-together, my daughter sent me this picture. I don’t know when she took it. It’s a tender moment between my granddaughter, Aimee, and me. When I saw it, my heart leapt, not only because I loved having that moment captured in a photo, but because it drew me to think of my own relationship with God the Father. This picture screams Abba, even though I’m not really her dad! This is the image Jesus died to secure in our hearts—Father’s lap is the safest place for us to be, even at our most broken.

When you consider God’s demeanor toward you, I hope you something like the image below in mind, rather than the one above. If not, there’s more work for his Spirit to do in you. And I pray he does it.

Here’s an interesting exchange I had recently. I have many like it. It seems when people leave an old system, their first passion is to start a new one. The unspoken thought is that systems will work pretty well if the right people are in charge. The reality is that systems themselves are destructive to relational and organic growth.

It seems all of this stems from the fact that we really don’t trust that Jesus is capable of building his church—that he cannot give rise to the reality of his family if we don’t “start something”. It’s as if living loved and loving just won’t be enough to let him do all he wants to do.

Here’s a passionate brother who is anxious to start his own church and my responses:

Mike: I just found out about you and what you are doing because my daughter sent me to your web for information about how to start an open church at home. I am just a new born baby, about 4 years now, I was baptized in the Holy Spirit about 3 years ago and I have been preparing myself to follow God’s plan for my life. I am considering going to a Bible college this September and the Lord spoke to me and asked me to start an Open Church with some of my family members and friends. I have read some of your articles regarding Church and think have helped me tremendously on how to approach the Lord’s command.

My response: I’m pleased to hear of your passion, but I don’t have any advice on how someone should approach starting a church, except to tell them not to. People who start a church end up basing it around their vision or gifts and it will either bog down or simply become the outgrowth of one person. I am convinced real church emerges as an organic outgrowth of relationships people are already sharing. So the question is not, how do we start a church, but rather, how do we facilitate people caring for each other and growing spiritually together and see over time whether or not church life emerges from that reality? I really don’t think we need to start churches. Jesus started the only one that matters at Pentecost 2000 years ago. We just need to live in that reality instead of starting more institutions that only further divide the body. That’s probably not what you wanted to hear, but I honestly thing the way God works is very different than the way we do…

Mike: I guess I used the term CHURCH incorrectly, because what I want to do is getting people… friends… family and share with them my experience, to try to have them become true Christians and then share our love with Jesus. I love your honesty. God bless you.

My response: I’m sure Father will lead you. If I could encourage you in anything it would be to share your life freely, but look to come alongside someone else’s journey. Once we try to get people to have the experience we have, we’ll manipulate them instead of serve them. Jesus just wants you to come alongside folks and give them truth as they are ready for it. Once we start trying to manage people’s spirituality, people will run from us. God will show you. I love your heart and passion, but church leadership has done this wrong for a long time and its why people are fleeing from the church instead of finding God in her.

Mike: Thank you Wayne, I understand what you are saying. Please tell me in your opinion then what I should do. How do I try to tell people about how wonderful Jesus is, about eternal life, about relationship with GOD. I am so new at this. I am a 71 years old newborn baby so willing to do good. Any advice will be incredible for me.

My response: What should you do? Follow him. If you don’t know what that means yet, just live in his love and love others around you. In time it will be clear what he wants you to do. If you don’t know now, other than to follow someone else’s form, then maybe you are moving ahead of him. I’m really serious about this. We’re just asked to love like he loves us (John 13:34-35), to proclaim the gospel as we have opportunity and to help others follow Jesus who want to follow him (Matthew 28:19-20). We are not told to plant a church, for he said he would build his own. He’s good at this. He knows what to do. Just help others as God gives you grace. Don’t try to start something. Don’t try to ‘get people’ to do anything. Live your life before them until they are hungry enough to ask for help. Then help them learn to live loved and follow Jesus. And the gospel will spread…

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When I last heard from Mike, he seemed to have captured what I was saying. We must not forget that the ‘early church’ did not arise out of a plan to get people to do anything. The early church emerged out of a revelation of who Jesus is, and hungry hearts responded who wanted to know God and live in his life. There was no recruitment campaign and no strategy to manage people through a hierarchical system. They lived as a family and grew to discover how they could embrace his life together and live transformed in the culture.

I actually think when we try to ‘start something’, we’ve already made a step away from his reality. It’s not that God won’t go with us and that our efforts won’t be fruitful at some level, but they will never help people discover the depth of relationship and transformation that comes from a relationship with him. Unfortunately, for many, the thing we start will be come their substitute for knowing God themselves.

Somehow we have to think differently—that our calling is not to build the church, but to present an authentic demonstration of the Gospel in how we live and what we say. Then, we take the time to equip those who want to know him, how to live in a relationship with him. As a pool of people discover how to live loved and love, then the church can take on a variety of forms and expressions in various times and seasons.

Our focus will remain on him and what he’s doing in the world, rather than sustaining our institution, be it in a building or a home. Then we have a shot at the church of Jesus Christ being known in the world as a people who are being transformed by him.

We have recently been informed by the brothers and sister in Kenya that an entire portion of their country is starving due to failed rains over the past three years. The price for corn has gone through the roof and they wanted to know if any of us could help. I received this last week:

Surely, my brother, many people are dying, especial some parts of Kenya, like Westpokot, and some parts like Mt. Elgon as well as throughout the country. Almost everywhere people were affected but the Lord will help us to serve them. The Kitale area it was depended for (food), but due to the last damage its now the area where more people are affected and the price of maize as raised up to three thousand shillings per sack. Even now at my home I am hosting other big families including their children who are running for refuge. Most affected are children and women. so your support in this point now is more helpful to rescue also the lives of brothers and sisters. Every day as we open our office in town there are more widows and those who are affected with HIV are coming to receive something to eat. The families here are trying, so continue praying and standing with us for this time again. Our churches are contributing but they are also affected. So we appreciate for your heart of compassion, so as God gives you with the brothers there it will be a great help. Thank you so much, thank you for your great heart.

I have been corresponding with these brothers and sisters over the last couple of years and God is doing a good work in them and through them. If you have some extra and God puts it on your heart to help them, please go to our Invoice Page and click on the ‘Pay Invoice’ button. You can then list “Donation for Kenya” and the amount you’d like to give. If you use the ‘Donation’ button you will need to also send me an email letting me know you wanted this to go for Kenya and not for Lifestream. All donations to this cause are tax deductible. Or, if you prefer, you can also send a check to Lifestream • 1560-1 Newbury Rd #313 • Newbury Park, CA 91320.